I was half-watching a weddingplannershow while getting dressed this morning, and then I heard this line:
Am I the only one that thinks there's something wrong with this sentence? For me, it illustrates my mixed feelings about weddings (not about marriages as much, but about the Big White Day of flowers, champagne, gourmet food, string quartets, pictures, you name it). Couples often seem to lose sight of the objective (spending the rest of their lives together, and celebrating that intention with family and friends) in the chaos and greed that planning a wedding often turns into. Somewhere along the way, finding the perfect rose or dress or church becomes more important than the love two people share. A first step on this path is when the bridegroom isn't consulted much, or at all. I know the logistics of weddings aren't as interesting to guys as they are to girls (generalize much, Saskia?) but if it's truly your day together, it should be planned together. Bridezilla's have lost sight of what prompted this whole day in the first place.
When I get married, if I get married, I want to stand up in front of family and friends and show them I've found happiness in this other person. I don't care much about the dress I'll be wearing, or the flowers I might be holding. I want a big party, yes, but I mostly want all my and our loved ones standing around us, beaming.
Now all I need to do is find the guy that wants the same.
"It's Carl's day too, so Kimberley wants to make sure that he gets the tux she wants"
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Am I the only one that thinks there's something wrong with this sentence? For me, it illustrates my mixed feelings about weddings (not about marriages as much, but about the Big White Day of flowers, champagne, gourmet food, string quartets, pictures, you name it). Couples often seem to lose sight of the objective (spending the rest of their lives together, and celebrating that intention with family and friends) in the chaos and greed that planning a wedding often turns into. Somewhere along the way, finding the perfect rose or dress or church becomes more important than the love two people share. A first step on this path is when the bridegroom isn't consulted much, or at all. I know the logistics of weddings aren't as interesting to guys as they are to girls (generalize much, Saskia?) but if it's truly your day together, it should be planned together. Bridezilla's have lost sight of what prompted this whole day in the first place.
When I get married, if I get married, I want to stand up in front of family and friends and show them I've found happiness in this other person. I don't care much about the dress I'll be wearing, or the flowers I might be holding. I want a big party, yes, but I mostly want all my and our loved ones standing around us, beaming.
Now all I need to do is find the guy that wants the same.
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Good for you! It's too bad when all the focus goes off the marriage and becomes about the wedding.
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